Part 2 – Day 3: The Power of Associations

The Key to Shaping Your Destiny

Our neuro-associations are the links of pain or pleasure that we associate with any given situation.

The science behind this knowledge is called Neuro-Associative Conditioning (NAC).

If you want to get the results you’re after, you have to start right now. Every action we take or though we have, has an effect on our destiny.

Every action and thought goes has these 4 effects:

1. Everything we think or do is a cause set in motion
2. For every action, there’s a reaction. Whatever thought we have or action we do is going to have an effect or result in our lives (wether it’s tiny or huge)
3. For every result you get, you begin to create a direction
4. For every direction you’re heading, there is an ultimate destination or destiny

Action → Reaction → Direction → Destination

We have to design our lives in reverse:

1. What’s the destination we want to get to?
2. What actions or steps do we have to take to get there?

Our life in 5 years or 20 years it’s not something we have to worry about in 5 or 20 years when we say “Shit, should’ve done that”. We’re building it now no matter if we like it or not.

It’s useful to visit the past to realise what kind of associations we made and change them if they’re not serving us.

We should pay special attention to anchors. This are another type on neuro-associations where we link an emotion to something. Like when we smell something and we remember a person or a time in our lives or when we listen to a song and it reminds us a specific birthday party or a trip.

One way of easily anchoring is when we’re in a high emotional state and something happens repeatedly.

Eg: Imagine you get home angry from your work, your partner/sibling/flatmate talks to you and you stay angry for a while. The next couple of days and the next week it’s the same story. What happens is that you’ll end up anchoring that anger with your partner/sibling/flatmate, so the day that you get home happy and they say “Hey! How are you?” your anger will trigger and you’ll be like “I’m good, okay? Why are you always asking that? It’s so annoying!”

Also, a lot of our neuro-associations have no basis in reality. They feel real to us but have nothing to do to what really happened.

Eg: Have you ever thought that someone was avoiding you and later find out that their phone was dead? Have you ever thought that someone hated you or was mad at you until you spoke to them and realise that everything was ok? Have you ever believed that something was impossible because you tried a couple of times and years later did it?

We tend to jump too quickly into conclusions on why something happens and therefore we create neuro-associations that have no basis in reality but that put limits on us.

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