The Science of Neuro-Associative Conditioning
All therapies work some times (some more than others). So instead of looking at them as wrong when they don’t work, if we take a look at why they succeed when they do, we’ll be able to see some common things.
Those things, the actual change or breakthrough is just the moment when we change a neuro-association.
The moment we change it we feel completely different because we’re not trapped in pain any longer and we see that taking action will give us far more pleasure than pain.
It’s important to see the process as a conditioning and not as a “programming”. That means that we have to regularly check and recondition the changes we make or there’s an option of us getting back to old patterns, habits or believes.
How to change a neuro-association
To change it, 3 things have to happen:
STEP 1: Get leverage on yourself
Make sure we’re responsible for these 3 things:
- Something must change
- I must change it
- I can change it
STEP 2: Interrupt the current pattern of association
When the thinking and feeling of the current pattern starts to appear we have to radically change our state: physically, what we’re saying, doing something stupid, etc.
STEP 3: Create a new association
Create a new though, emotion or behaviour associated with the new choice and reinforce it until it becomes a habit. Link pleasure to the thing we must do and pain to the thing we must stop doing.
If we reward ourselves for every little step, the new pattern will get quickly established.